There is no longer alcohol to blur and numb the situation.” In New York, booze is often considered a necessary social lubricant for the competitive dating scene, but many millennials — some totally sober, others who drink in moderation — are finding it easier to find love if they put down the bottle on dates. You’re not going to have a true impression or genuine connection,” says Warrington, who’s based in Williamsburg and runs sober events company Club Söda NYC.Ruby Warrington, author of “Material Girl, Mystical World,” says she’s seen an uptick of young singles attending her sober mixers, curious to learn how to flirt and date without getting tipsy. “Imagine going to a job interview; the last thing you do is turn up drunk.” A similar line of thinking led Jocelyn, a 33-year-old speech pathologist, to stop going on boozy dates in 2015, though she still drinks on special occasions." game, or watch an unfamiliar face lean in for a kiss. "I must not have noticed that." I never heard from him again, either.Was it even possible to make it through a first date without a single sip of wine? When I vented to a guy friend, he said, "Well, you can't really blame these guys. Is she afraid that if she lets down her defenses her true colors will show?If you’re in recovery, you already know that quitting drinking doesn’t mean quitting fun.In fact, sobriety can lead to a much bigger and more colorful social calendar.
Many young people go out for drinks as a first date.I found that people were regularly shocked at my ingenuity, as if it’s really that big of a deal to put some effort into crafting a creative date. Not everyone is an alcoholic, but many people use drinking to escape reality.When I started dating again, I met people from all walks of life. I’ve learned that many people use drinking as a serious coping mechanism.Being sober and dating as a 20-something is real weird.Maybe it’d be less weird if I never drank, but I happen to be a recovering alcoholic who spent many years using booze as a crutch and a vehicle to getting what I wanted.Though never a huge drinker, I was a steady one — easily downing up to three glasses of red wine per night — and since I'd become hopelessly addicted to Ambien, I was afraid that alcohol might turn problematic, too.